Why so happy?  Er … sad?

This blog gets its title from the William Blake poem, “Auguries of Innocence.”

I originally reserved this name back in January 2009 with the intention of it being a place to talk about our struggles to create a family in the face of unexplained infertility.  Less than a month later, I found out I was pregnant.

I began blogging again a few months after my son was born, under a different name.  Those were deep, dark times — did your baby blues morph into a kind of generalized hatred for all things and all people?  yeah, mine too — but Joy and Woe was still around, patiently waiting for me to remember the password.

Eventually the mental fog lifted, around the time that we re-upped genetically.  Now there are four: me, P and the kids.  Plural!

I call P “P” everywhere, and damned if I’m going to ask his permission before I write about our life.  So leaving out the rest of the letters is a small concession to his privacy and if you know me, you know I’m all about small concessions.

The kids will get called by their real and fake names in equal measure, as is the case in real life.  If they’re not able to find — and hack — this blog by the time they’re in grade school, I shall be gravely disappointed.

But about the name … 3+ years into motherhood, joy and woe are major themes.  I think I chose well.

It is right it should be so:
Man was made for joy and woe;
And when this we rightly know
Thro’ the world we safely go.

Joy and woe are woven fine,
A clothing for the soul divine.
Under every grief and pine
Runs a joy with silken twine.

I love mayo!  Also mail.  Shoot me a line at jeni [at] joyandwoe [dot] ca.


  1. Thanks. I enjoyed reading your “about” page! :o) My own ramblings will swing back and forth between the painful and the ways we found to deal with it in a humorous manner. Thanks for the read and from the bits I’ve browsed, the chuckle.

  2. Joy and Woe — no elaboration needed. You did choose well.

  3. Thanks for liking my “Inside” post!

  4. Hello :) Thanks so much for your like on my post! I’m in love with your blog! So funny and oh so true! Have a great day love!

  5. tu2t widhi says:

    thank you for liking my entry for weekly photo challenge :D
    and thank’s god that you’ve already have your little angel right now

  6. I only discovered your blog recently but I am happy to nominate you for the One Lovely Blog Award. I am mom to two wonderful kids and I know all about the ups and downs of parenthood. I am so glad I stumbled upon your blog. Here is my post about the award! http://allaccesspassblog.wordpress.com/2012/07/28/honored-again/

  7. Thanks for dropping by my blog… Hope you visit more often…

  8. greetings from another infertility “survivor”. long story I intended to write about, never did. Miss M is almost 13 years old and I’ve loved every minute of her. thanks for the like on my post!

  9. You have lovely blog :) I’m a mom too, my daughter is 2 and half years old.

    hope to see you on my blog again :)

  10. Thanks for visiting!

  11. Hi Jeni, I hope you are having a good day. You are invited to play along in a game of blog tag, I hope you can join in http://rainbowbakery.wordpress.com/2012/10/06/tag-youre-it/

  12. I just nominated you for the SIsterhood of the World Bloggers Award!!!

    Have a fabulous day!!!!

    Joy aka
    Evil Joy

  13. Jeni,
    It took me a long enough time to get here… But now I am… Anyone else yell at you in your mom group, tell them you know a scary clown.
    Le Clown

  14. Just wanted to let you know I have nominated you for the Beautiful Blogger Award. I hope this will be welcome news for you. Some people choose not to participate, others enjoy the opportunity to visit new-to-you blogs and to be visited by new-to-you bloggers. To read more about the award and accepting this nomination, visit my post at http://globetrottersara.wordpress.com/2012/10/13/speeches/

  15. Hi..!!.
    You just bagged Wonderful Team Member Readership Award. Congratulations!
    Kindly check my latest post for the same.

  16. Some things, like joy and woe, you just have to find out for yourself, just like those pesky passwords!

  17. Benedicte says:

    I’m new here, but already I love your blog. So when I received the Lovely Blog Award, with its opportunity to pass it on, I was thrilled to put yours on my list of nominees. Thank you! http://simpletangles.wordpress.com/2012/10/22/moved-to-tears-ive-been-awarded/

  18. Thanks for stopping by and liking one of my blog posts, I really appreciate it! :)

    Great blog you’ve got here! I’ll be sure to follow! :)

  19. Hey Jeni!
    I’ve really enjoyed following your blog and getting to know you in this huge blog world! I’ve nominated you for the Very Inspiring Blogger Award! I hope you are able to participate! Thanks for inspiring me!!

  20. Hello Jeni! I have nominated you for the Liebster Blog Award. Please accept it and see the rules at http://miljoanne.wordpress.com/2012/11/23/liebster-blog-award/ … Thank you!

  21. Love that you named your blog after William Blake!

  22. Thanks for following my blog “Sweet Spell Bakeshop” =)

  23. Hi there,

    Just wanted to let you know I have nominated you for the The Versatile Blogger Award. I hope this is welcome news to you. If you prefer not to accept the award, I certainly understand, but I hope you will visit the other nominees, and they will visit you, just the same. To see more about the award and accepting this nomination, please visit my post at http://wp.me/p1w5ra-H8. All the best!

  24. thanks for the like, your site seems entertaining and very popular, I will have to pay a visit

  25. Great life story!

  26. Hi Jeni! I was writing a blog post about a few bloggers/blogs I really liked. I would love to send you a copy of it before I published it. Send me a quick e-mail at ambanayar@gmail.com if you are interested :) Have a great day!

  27. I just nominated you for ‘The Very Inspiring Blogger Award’ Congratulations!!!

  28. Jeni – I used your blog in my blog post today – Bliss is Equal Parts Joy and Woe – Feb 24. 2013 post- thanks for the idea

    • It was a great post — and a great question! I think I posted nearly the same response three times, in at least two different places, and I’m blaming the kid for that, because it was her fault, dang it! Please trash superfluous comments accordingly! (And thanks — I loved reading all the responses.)

  29. I nominated your blog for the Sunshine Award :) Check it out here: http://imthatkay.wordpress.com/2013/02/25/id-like-to-thank-the-academy

  30. Hi Jeni. I just nominated you for an award: http://wp.me/pYeWf-1BU

  31. I love your follow angle. Thanks for the visit and the like of my Weekly Photo Challenge post representing “Fresh”.

  32. I’m so happy to have discovered your blog today! I love the name ‘joyandwoe’ as it describes exactly what the journey of parenting is all about. Looking forward to following you.

  33. Hi there! I am thoroughly enjoying reading your blog, and I look forward to following you in the future!


  34. Hey Jeni!! I’ve awarded your blog with the Versatile Blogger Award!! Go here for the details: http://adayinthelifeofjennay.wordpress.com/2013/09/01/the-versatile-blogger-award/

  35. Such a cool idea for a blog name! looking forward to reading more!

  36. thanks for stopping by and liking my photos for the let there be light photo challenge. I like your intro (glad things worked out for you) and really like that poem, nice choice for the name of your blog.

  37. Jackpot! THIS blog is winner! I’ve read only your about page and already regret that there are not enough hours in the day to catch up! Joy and woe, indeed! More, please!


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